On Relationships

Before you start reading about this topic, I just wanted to give heads up regarding the complete content which is my perception and there’s no ultimate TRUTH to it, it is just my ‘truth’.

I firmly stand by the belief that relationships are the life lines to human existence, alliance which gives your life new meanings, new duties, new joy and best of all new people to cherish. In my opinion, this term called ’relationship’ merely states the fact that a person has found a person to share companionship with, share life with, share his/her thoughts, feelings, emotions, views and love. It does not necessarily mean that there is a “girlfriend” and a “boyfriend” and neither does it mean that there is a “man” and “wife”. Bonding is about what you share and not about what you are called in a society. Yes, marriage means that you are bound by some laws to fulfill, but at the end being in a marriage or a teenage dependence is nothing but adding a tag to what two people share. Yes, today I will talk only about a relationship that exists between two people that are in love (not blood relations). Why has our society made it a taboo to have a companionship at a young age? To yearn for someone when you just feel like loving them? The same people who state the fact that love has no time and space doesn’t hinder it are the ones who make it age bound. No, LOVE is consciousness no one should be afraid of hiding and everyone has the right to appreciate a person and vice versa. Yes, maturity does matter but love has nothing to do with maturity, you love and care, hug and whisper, laugh and cry, share and steal, enjoy and regret at times … that is what love is and that is what a relationship is all about. That ecstatic titillation, that warmth, that chill down your spine which makes you giggle at his/her name and that “oh shit! I am done” thought when you look at them, those small things count and those will make the best memories to look down upon when you’re grey haired and smiling. Love is not a feeling, but it is a bundle of feelings which is complicated but makes you feel simple and makes you experience simple calm. Yes, I do think that it does give you a feeling of being complete but that is something we experience at more mature phase (I’m still 19).

Infatuations are different, they make you feel happy but infatuations are not attachments and somewhere down the lane we all know the difference between loving and having a ‘crush’. Hey, infatuations are important too because they make you realize that there’s a difference when you love someone. Coming to the point of a two way interconnection it is not always possible that the person you cherish will love you back and it might so happen that they might just like you, to all the people out there reading this and if you guys have a regard for someone and haven’t confessed …DO IT. It is simple, you need a person then you tell them your innervation and let them know the importance they hold in your life, if they deny having the same feelings be OKAY with it and continue talking because if you love them you still will ,though they don’t, right? Affinity can be developed so help them with that and who knows a few months, years later they start having the same perception as yours and Voila! Love is a one-person thing, there’s no loving ten different people. So let that person come into your life and then die trying to love them … it’ll work out.

An intimate understanding of each other does not imply to the fact that you continuously talk 24/7 and neither does it mean that you let your ego come in the middle and talk when you wish. A relation, consists of three lives. Two personal lives and one common life. Privacy, personal space (be it physical or mental), and family life are important and must be respected. Time is essential, so be there with them and make the most of it and remember, don’t shy away. It is about understanding a new person and that is not a thing that gets over in a year, it is a lifelong process and it is totally worth it.

Thank you, for bearing with me on this topic and remember :” Relationships make you the person you are so live, love and cherish it all.”